What does it mean for one to become their highest and best self? It’s a statement that needs evaluating moment by moment. It’s not about achieving the ultimate goals of your life before you feel like your highest and best self. This is the message the world we live in has given us for far too long! The reality is you only have this moment, this exact moment you are experiencing, am I being my highest and best right now? That’s my only reality. From this present space, I can ask more questions if I feel the answer may be no I can ask myself what can I do right now that is realistic and feels right for me? One can only achieve a goal or a state of being from the space therein now. Not being in the space of now is where frustration sets in for many people and the highest and best self feels impossible to attain. People picture their end results when planning for their life goals, this can bring feelings of being overwhelmed, hopeless and even paralyzed by the thought of getting the results they long for in life. By staying in a present factual space and looking at only what you can do next, the next right step, can you feel empowered and positioned for success. Let’s acknowledge that this is a very hard task that is being proposed in this article. Staying present takes the assumption that you have control over the majority of your thoughts. Most people experience such anxiety from excessive future-focused thinking that this task of staying present feels like a major stumbling block. The journey of staying present is a process and one must mindfully, moment by moment, train the brain to stay present. I spend my current place in a life dedicated to helping others find their way to the present moment and learning to stay there more then they wander off to the future and past which creates anxiety and depression. The act of mindfulness and staying present, which brings peace, is one of the best gifts you can give yourself on the journey of becoming your highest and best self.
With Love and Light,
Sheri Lawrence, MA, LMFT, RYT 200 & Owner of Serenity Wellness Services, LLC